Another Father’s Day has come and gone. It was bittersweet. I went to have a visit with my father on Saturday and we had a small family get-together. It was nice.
Sunday on Father’s Day proper we did… nothing. My only recognition as a father was to stand up in church while all fathers everywhere were recognized. My daughter caught me after church and gave me a hug and wished me a happy Father’s Day. And that was pretty much all that made the day special. No cards, no dinner, not even a cupcake. I treated myself to a chocolate shake at Carl’s Jr. Yay Dad!
I feel like my children think I’m optional. They both relate really well to their mother about which I’m very glad. But I feel I could drop off the planet and they would be sad for a few days but then life would go on as normal without much impact on their lives.
I have to say I didn’t think this would sting as much as it does; not getting any recognition from my family, but it does. To my wife’s credit she wrote me a very nice note which I really appreciate. It helped salve the wound. And a very sweet woman at work wished me a happy Father’s Day on a sticky note and gave me a bag of cashews… so there’s that.
Okay, I’ve vented. I’ll slip back into the shadows of irrelevance.
Wow! Sounds like my Mother’s Day and my 60th birthday. My kids would have overlooked both “mom” events without intervention. Same for their dad. Prompting was necessary. I was thinking that next year, I would go to the same lengths for them that they do for me. 👍
I love you! I think you are smart and funny a hard worker and great spiritual leader for your family.
Thanks Melanie. I know all parents go through this and I know my kids love me. Like I said… it just stung more than I thought it would. I must be getting emotional in my middle-ish age.
And though I’ve not said it, my opinion is that you are a tireless defender, advocate, and caretaker of your family. Even if they don’t notice or appreciate it, I notice. Just saying. There should be awards for people like you. Then again I suppose Christ IS the reward for all we do. Love you. 🙂
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